"""How easily the words are gifted and yet their action requires discipline which isn't a strength from the heart... I am not sure somehow I send the message to my kids 'ur not good enough" and I wonder if thats the message I grew up hearing so subliminally it's the one I parent in... but in that perspective it's easier for teenagers to 'zone out' where they can waste many hours of time being 'successful' behind a game that's meant to booster and engage them instead of personal contact- where they need to be seen and self judge the already predisposition they enter the situations with. "Am I enough". The long game would be that the message they take intro the world is to prove that they are--- and I pray they also soften to be loved thought it all... that's the work of parenting teenagers today for me. Recognizing, respecting, reconciling, and unconditionally loving...it all-- """